The psychotherapy I offer creates deep and lasting changes in a client’s self-esteem, creativity, relationships and their ability to enjoy and embrace life. The therapies I offer complement each other. As someone is gaining confidence, increased body awareness can strengthen and support this burgeoning growth. Cognitive and behavior therapies can be helpful but they do not deal with the underlying causes of anxiety, depression, self-esteem or relationship issues. These problems are rooted in the client’s childhood and the pain they caused cannot be overlooked if real healing is desired.
The central tenant of Psychoanalysis is complete honesty, for the client to say whatever is on their mind. The flow of free association brings up underlying causes and fears. I listen for these influences and learn how they have impacted your life. I reflect back insights, understanding, clarification or questions to help deepen and support your process of healing.
Example: A client is talking about feeling lost and disconnected for most of his life. Hearing the deep and early emptiness the therapist poses a Zen question, “What would you know that you have never been taught?” The client is surprised and becomes quiet. In his silence he goes deep within himself …he has found a knowing and connection to the world that is new to him. He answers, “I would know water, rocks and how to run like the wind.” The client experiences a crucial, deeper sense of self that was unknown and has now become a part of him.
At times clients may feel embarrassed or frightened to expose themselves and building trust takes time. You may need to test me as we learn about one another. It is possible that some fears about the therapist refect other relationships, exploring this is an important way of releasing old behavior patterns. It is also part of my responsibility to understand and find ways to ease this process for you.
Another key element in psychoanalysis is working with the transference. Transference is the relationship between the analyst and client which is effected by feelings the client had in childhood towards their parents. This can be a microcosm of the way the client sees other relationships because we often project feelings onto people that originate from expectations and hurts from the past. It is deeply healing to be able to question and express these feeling in a therapeutic relationship so that misconceptions and deep feelings can finally be felt, understood and clarified without judgement.
Gestalt Therapy is about wholeness, it helps unite the different parts of oneself that are repressed or split off and brings it into the present. The "empty chair technique" is a Gestalt method that can bring hidden feelings to the surface. The client imagines another person or aspect of themself in an empty chair. In this experience the client can become aware of important feelings about themselves or others that have been denied or blamed on someone else. These emotions are unconsciously controlling the clients behavior and feelings. As these feelings are recognized and understood it mitigates feeling victimized and gives back greater control, empowerment, energy and awareness.
Example: A woman feels deeply rejected because men stop calling her after a few dates. Using the “empty chair technique” she tells the man how afraid she is of being abandoned. She says “if your get to know me you'll reject me." Then gradually she goes deeper and says, "getting close will just show how angry I am and then you won't love me, so leave me alone.......then I'll never be hurt!" At that moment she realized that unconsciously she was the one doing the rejecting (the men have been reacting to this). This awareness sparked a period of intense work and growth where her feelings became conscious. This allowed her to release old patterns that had maintained her aloneness. After this work she was able to have a very satisfying long-term relationship and eventually married.
Trauma can cause rigidity in the body cutting off important feelings and inner strength. The Mind/Body Integration helps you soften, strengthen and ground your body connecting you to your energy and life force. It also deepens the experience of the “Self" which supports you while you make the changes that evolve from your growth. In addition, the spiritual connection links you to what is also beyond the mental, it is what makes painters paint and singers sing it is the calling from your deepest being. We all need to find these connections, without it addictions and entrenched defense systems substitute, postponing and damaging the link to one’s deepest joy, empowerment and self-acceptance.
Mentoring & Coaching
The Coaching I offer is uniquely integrated with my therapeutic skills to help people release old patterns of doubt that limit their potential. This duel approach enables you to transform your self-image while using coaching concepts and guidance to liberate you to new levels of success and satisfaction. In our work together you will discover how to open to your creativity and find the preseverance to see your ideas through to fruition. You will learn the important difference between perseverence and perfectionism. You will become aware of your personal cycle of rest and activity, restoring yourself so you can resume your creativity with new energy and clarity. Learn to overcome the pain of failure and the negativity that can shut you down: you will be taught how to empower yourself as you move past these obstacles. Master how to focus on your strengths and uniquely stand-out in a crowded marketplace which is an essential key to success. I fervently began studying marketing in 1991 when I relocated to Pennsylvania. Three years ago I returned to Manhattan using these tools to create a thriving practice: I can teach you these essential marketing strategies to successfully transform your business and bring your vision into the world.
Jody Friedman, LCSW
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